Episode 18: The 5 Things I Would Never Do as a Parenting Coach

MetroParent asked me to write an article on The 5 Things I Would Never Do as a Parenting Coach, and I thought it would be fun to join the TikTok trend. I go over my top 5, and ways to reframe the situation to help you and your kiddos thrive. 

The 5 Things I Would Never Do as a Parenting Coach:

• Why I don’t make kiddos apologize for their behaviors.
• We go over why this is not teaching your children empathy.
• Even though your child’s behavior is not always great, this does not mean you have a bad kid or are doing a bad job as a parent.
• Why I will never feel afraid of making mistakes as a parent.
• How to use the 80/20 rule when you feel bad for yelling at your child.
• Why using the moments when you aren’t doing your best parenting is the perfect time to help teach your child about how to reset and repair the situation. 
• Why giving yourself grace is so essential for you and your kiddo.
• Why confidence is gained through competence.
• It’s hard, but we must let our kids go through struggles. 
• What experience stacking is and why it’s important.
• 5 - 6-year-olds should have better coping skills and fewer tantrums; if not, they just need extra help dealing with difficult situations.
• How I still have a hard time not stepping in to help with my grown children.
• Why I never try to control the outcome. 
• Your child’s path may be very different from what you expected. Pay attention to the reasons why.
• I tell a story from a professor from my college days about why giving our kids the space to learn works and is important for the learning process. 
• Why I would never parent from a rigid place.